Men and Intimacy, Real Talk. Real Answers.

A quick peek inside the book

What Is Intimacy to Men? – Page 10
Intimacy to me is when the mind, body, spirit, and soul of two individuals collide on an emotional level. I’ve been intimate and I did not have a connection. I was close to someone but I did not have an emotional connection and I’ve been close to women and I haven’t had a spiritual connection. I feel when I am truly intimate and when our energies collide in such a way where we are desiring to go to the same place, and that’s just not the climax but the journey to it, then a lot of things are happening. Being a minister and a prophet, I believe that when we have sex or when we become intimate, our spirits become entangled. – GORDON

Men Feel Love Too – Page 18
For me, the times I was in love, it felt like a pain in my heart. The type of pain I would feel if I was losing that person… it was almost like a mini heart attack. It is like missing that person and feeling as though the blood stopped flowing to my heart or something, it’s a serious pain. I can’t fake it. The times that I had been in love that pain had physically happened to me because I felt it in my heart. – OMARI

Men and Communication – Page 45
I don’t always communicate my needs because I don’t want to be needy. My appearing not to be needy I think goes back to the way I was raised where the man is supposed to be taking care of everything. I would prefer to be giving more than I am receiving. Giving more love then receiving it, is just something I grew up with. – GIANNI

Do Men Really Want Intimacy? – Page 51
Yes, I would want true intimacy because most of my life I’ve played the field. Most of my life I’ve committed infidelities and I would love to have a strong bond where I don’t desire or think about any other woman, but the woman that I’m with. I freed myself. I wasted so much time thinking the grass is greener somewhere else or just thinking that that’s what a man is supposed to do when it’s not. – DARRELL

Men Understanding Women – Page 67
This may sound shallow, but I would ask how important is sexual intimacy to her in a relationship? Because me being who I am, sex is important in a relationship and I wouldn’t want to lose that spark. I think it is healthy, I think it keeps the relationship strong. Intimacy keeps you in love and it keeps it all together. People may think it is such a shallow question, but I bet 80% or 90% of the people who want to ask that question, would all agree that they want to know how the sex is going to be for the rest of their lives together. –LEE K.

Can Men Be Loyal? – Page 90
The way a woman keeps a man is to stroke his ego, affirm his strengths and be complimentary… that’s all the lion wants to hear. As the king of the castle, I want to know that I’m doing a decent job being a provider and taking care of her needs. – MAURICE

Can Women Strengthen Men? – Page 101
Oh yeah! My wife made me stronger as a man. If it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t be where I am right now because I was out being a man hoe and not focusing on my future. I was just focusing on having fun. I was ready to settle down and I found someone who was compatible for me. – DORIAN

The Pain Men Feel After a Breakup – Page 111
Yes, I’ve been in love where I was head over heels about her and could not think about anyone else but that person. When we broke up it was one of the most miserable feelings in my life actually. It made me sick. It made me very depressed. It even made me have fleeting thoughts of –“if I were not alive anymore it would be better”. I was feeling this way for about 3-4 months but that lingering feeling, to a smaller degree, has stayed with me for almost my entire life. –D. NICE

Why Do Men Talk During Sex? – Page 121
I think it works both ways for men and women. Women do a lot of hooping’ and hollering’ to try to get the guy to finish up and on the flip side the guy says a lot of stuff to make sure he’s going to get his. Each person has an agenda, he wants to bust a nut and she wants to be done with it. So he’s saying this to make sure she doesn’t pull back before he gets his and she’s trying to finish up quickly. – CLYDE

Why Women Stop Having Sex – Page 136
Sometimes women use sex as punishment, which is totally the wrong thing to do to a man. If she shuts it down, she’s just begging for a man to go out and find somebody else to have sex with. – WESLEY

Why Men Watch Porn – Page 139
Yes, of course I watch porn! My mind is constantly thinking about sex. It’s like stepping out into the sun and feeling the sun’s rays on you. It’s the same thing with sex for a guy. It’s like we’re sitting around and we say “hey, I want to go outside for a minute”. – MALCOLM

Do Men Get Bored With Sex? – Page 153
Do I get bored with sex? No. Do I get bored with sex with one person… hell yeah! But it doesn’t have to be. I wouldn’t get bored with sex with the same person if she would be more involved and if she wanted to take it to the next level and be creative. My sex life now is almost null and void but whenever I have sex, it’s me performing all the acts and she just lays there. I feel like I’m a charity case. Like she wears a watch and sets a timer and say “I’ll give you three minutes”. I do what I do because I don’t get it. I got five minutes, so it might be the only five minutes that I get for the next few months so I say “fuck it!” It isn’t going to be great but at least I get some. – TRAVIS

Men’s Last Words: RELATIONSHIPS – Page 157
There are men with money who find the best looking woman that they can find with a nice ass nice pair of tits and they marry her because she fits the look they want. Now they have the nice car and the nice looking woman. Five years later into the relationship, he now finds out that that booty actually has a personality, and he realizes he doesn’t even like the personality and now he’s in too deep. Now he’s got a kid, child support, and alimony to destroy him. They live in a house that is partitioned off where they don’t even enter in the same door so they don’t have to see each other. They live in the same house but she does her thing and he does his. – TYRESE

Men’s Last Words: WOMEN – Page 168
Women use their pussy to get men, not realizing that if they use their brain they would get them and keep them. Women think that all I’m after is what’s between their legs. They don’t realize that the first couple of weeks I’m trying to see if they are psychopaths or not. Usually women are the first ones when we are out on a date having a good time, to bring up sex. – JASON

Men’s Last Words: SEX – Page 173
A lot of men are afraid of asking to have some of their fantasies satisfied by a companion because they are afraid that the answer may be “no”. So what they do is go outside of the relationship and have some woman they meet in a bar or somebody else satisfy their inner desires or tendencies. In my case, I felt that my wife made me feel like a pervert for asking for what I want. My wife would say “I’m already married, I don’t do that anymore.” So a lot of men walk around and they see a pretty woman, and it’s ok to stare and look, and they think “man, I would like to get into her…” because they fantasize about these things and a lot of men can’t talk openly about this stuff because they are considered to be a pervert. – SOLOMAN